When I got married at 28, I had my life beautifully mapped out. I thought that by 40, I would be done having kids, building memories with my husband, and thriving in every area of life. I never imagined that at 39, I’d be a single mother of one — learning to embrace peace, contentment, and the idea that maybe, just maybe, I may never remarry.
Life Didn’t Go as Planned — But It Still Has Purpose
Life has a way of rewriting our dreams in ways we never expect. When my marriage ended, I held on to hope — hope that love would find me again, that someone would see me, value me, and build a home with me. For years, I believed my knight in shining armor was somewhere out there, delayed but not denied.
Life Happened — and So Did Growth
I never imagined I would be here — a single mother of one, learning to embrace peace in contentment and accepting that I may never remarry. It took years of tears, hope, waiting, and healing to reach this place.
But eight years later, I’ve realized that perhaps, the peace I was waiting for wasn’t in another person — it was in me all along.
The Reality of Love and Marriage Today
Love, as I once knew it, feels different now. Relationships seem more transactional, more about benefits than genuine connection. If I just wanted marriage, I could have been remarried 3–4 years ago. But I’ve never been one to settle for less than love.
How do you submit and respect a man you don’t love?
How do you build a life with someone you’re not attracted to — just for the title “Mrs” or a chance to travel abroad?
How do you align yourself with someone who doesn’t share your vision or your values?
No. My heart won’t let me. My peace won’t let me. My God won’t let me.
And even though I still believe in genuine love. I just no longer chase it.
Lessons From My First Marriage
My first marriage taught me one of the most important lessons of my life:
Never marry again just because you want to answer “Mrs.” Never again.
That lesson reshaped how I see love, submission, and companionship. It taught me that marriage without genuine connection and respect can feel lonelier than being single.
It humbled me, refined me, and built me. It taught me that being called “Mrs.” without peace is a silent prison. I’d rather be Miss with joy than Mrs. with sorrow. And no matter how the world glorifies the idea of “having a man,” it’s far better to have peace than to have a partner who disturbs your soul.
Choosing Peace Over Pressure
I know some people may think I’m foolish for giving up on marriage, but that’s the beauty of choice. I choose peace. I choose to live in purpose. I choose to love my life and pour into the one gift God gave me — my Gorgeous daughter. At some point, you stop explaining your choices to people who will never understand your path.
I no longer sit waiting for a man to complete my story. My story is already beautiful. My life is already full.
I choose to love my life as it is, to pour my energy into purpose, and to raise my beautiful daughter with joy. I choose to stop waiting and start living.
Contentment doesn’t mean I’ve lost faith in love — it means I’ve stopped chasing what isn’t meant for me. It means I trust God’s plan more than my own timeline.
Yielding to God’s Will
After years of hoping, praying, and waiting, I’ve finally yielded to the will of God. Maybe my story was never meant to follow society’s pattern. Maybe my greatest blessing was never in a second marriage, but in the peace that comes from surrender.
God’s will is perfect, even when it doesn’t align with my expectations. And today, I rest in that truth. I am at peace with loving and raising my gorgeous child — the one precious gift that made my journey worth every tear and every test.
39 and at Peace
I may never remarry — and that’s okay.
I may never have another child — that’s okay, too.
Because what I have is peace. What I have is purpose. What I have is love — the pure, unshakable kind that comes from God.
This year, I’m not wishing for a husband or another chance at love. I’m wishing for more grace, more peace, and more purpose. I’m wishing to keep shining in the lane God has placed me in.
So here’s to 39 — to peace in contentment, to motherhood, to growth, and to embracing singlehood with joy and faith.
Final Thoughts: Finding Peace in Contentment
Embracing singlehood doesn’t mean bitterness or giving up on love; it means finding joy in the life you have now. It’s realizing that you are whole even when you stand alone.
To every single mother or woman out there who feels like time has passed her by — breathe. Your life still has purpose. You are still seen. You are still loved.
Sometimes peace comes not from getting what we want, but from finally accepting what God has already given.
“You will keep in perfect peace those whose minds are steadfast, because they trust in You.”
— Isaiah 26:3 💛
If you are reading this and you are weary about waiting and God’s silence… Just bask in his peace that surpasses all understanding.
Have you been in a waiting season that eventually turned around for good before? Share your testimony with me below 👇🏽