For the longest time, I thought loving my body had to wait until it changed.
Until I lost weight.
Until my tummy flattened.
Until I “snapped back.”
Until I looked like the woman on my screen.
But here’s the truth I’ve finally embraced: my current body deserves love too. Not the future version. Not the edited version. This one.
Understanding My Current Body Type
Right now, my body doesn’t fit neatly into society’s preferred boxes. It’s not “slim thick,” not runway thin, not postpartum-perfect.
It’s real.
It carries softness in places I once judged harshly. It reflects seasons of motherhood, stress, healing, growth, and survival. And instead of fighting it, I’ve chosen to understand it.
Your body type can change due to:
- Motherhood and childbirth
- Hormonal shifts
- Lifestyle and stress
- Age and metabolism
- Emotional seasons
And none of these changes mean your body has failed you.
Why I Stopped Fighting My Body
At some point, I realised that constantly trying to “fix” my body was exhausting. Diet culture had me chasing a version of myself that never stayed long enough.
Loving my current body didn’t happen overnight. It started when I:
- Stopped using negative language about my body
- Unfollowed accounts that made me feel inadequate
- Started dressing for the body I have, not the one I’m chasing
- Focused on health, not punishment
Peace came when I stopped treating my body like a problem.
Dressing for My Body, Not Trends
One major shift was learning how to dress my body type instead of forcing trends to work on me.
Now I ask:
- Does this make me feel confident?
- Can I breathe, move, and live in this?
- Does this honour my shape instead of hiding it?
When you dress intentionally, confidence shows—even if your size changes.
Motherhood Changed My Body—and That’s Okay
As a mother, my body has done extraordinary things. It has carried life, endured sleepless nights, and still shows up every day.
Stretch marks, softness, wider hips—these aren’t flaws. They’re evidence.
In a world that pressures women to “bounce back,” I’ve chosen to stand still and love myself forward.
Loving My Body Is an Act of Self-Respect
Body love isn’t about pretending you don’t want to grow or change. It’s about refusing to hate yourself in the process.
I still:
- Move my body intentionally
- Care about nutrition
- Want to feel strong and healthy
But now, it comes from love—not shame.
If You’re Struggling With Your Body Right Now
Let me tell you this plainly:
You don’t need permission to love your body.
Not from society.
Not from Instagram.
Not from the scale.
Your body is not a before picture.
It’s your home.
And you deserve to feel at peace in it.
Final Thoughts
This is my current body type—and I’m choosing gratitude over comparison, confidence over criticism, and love over pressure.
If you’re learning to love your body too, you’re not behind.
You’re right on time.
I confidently own my body and prioritise self-love. I nurture myself with healthy food, supplements, and positive affirmations. I stay active with strength training, pamper my skin with targeted products (hello, PMS!), and prioritise rest and sleep. This empowering message really resonated with me.
Thank you so much for reading.
I’m glad it resonated with you. I personally need to work on exercising.. even if it is just to stay fit, not necessarily to lose weight. That’s my major struggle.
This is beautiful to read. Like I’d always say to people around me; The highest form of love isn’t found in someone else’s arms — it’s discovered when you finally make peace with the person staring back at you in the mirror.
So apt. I strongly believe that no amount of admiration and compliment will mean anything to you if you are not feeling it from the inside.
So apt. I strongly believe that no amount of admiration and compliment will mean anything to you if you are not feeling it from the inside.
I saw you today, long before I came across this post…
And, I’d be quite modest when I say that you have a ton of “interestings” going on with that body.
So do YOU always, dear…Nothing beats this.
Awwwww. Thanks K. I really appreciate the encouragement.🙏